Did you try?

Did you try?

How many times have you told yourself you were going to try, this time was the charm? How many you promised your spouse that you would change? At this point everything looks terrible, the suffering is greatest, you want to get out and feel the desire to change to be true, but just the intention? It is not necessary to answer this last question, we all know that is not enough, no work no change and no results.

Over 11 years experience as a psychologist and marriage counselor showed me that most of these attempts remain on "inventions", soothing temporary discomfort that do not lead to any act committed. Some come to pick up the phone, perhaps to attend a first appointment, but later? Is there a next? In most cases there is abandonment of what never began in earnest, the result of cheap excuses negligence and failure to recognize that compromises are necessary.

This is one of the major causes of failed marriages, a lot of promise for change that is then translated into nothing and in the end it seems that you are talking to a wall. How to live with someone who is not able to listen and take into account the demands of your partner. It is not like a fool to obey the demands of another, but take them into account, not surprisingly, where there's smoke ...

First warning: do not make the deaf / a.

Second warning: accept all, some time, many times, we need help.

Why is it so difficult to accept that alone could not resolve their disagreements? Of course you avoid problems separate, but will give others. That is not the solution, there are others.



Helena Trujillo

Psychoanalyst and couples therapist

www.htpsicoanalisis.com