Suicide

Suicide is probably one of the most difficult issues to address. How do you get to this? Why not find another person out? For those who can not conceive, nor has ever conceived of this possibility, suicide is not the extent of their understanding. It is unimaginable. One would say that there is always a better alternative, one that the less reversible. I became interested in this issue almost as soon as I launched a website for people who suffered childhood sexual abuse, since this is the main issue that I occupy. The fact is that immediately caught my attention repeatedly that there was talk of suicide. It was obvious that the relationship between sexual abuse and suicide were no match, so I opened a survey in order to establish a statistical approach that would allow a more reliable this really so puzzling. It should, first, that participation may not reach obtained a numerical benchmarks that allow us to ensure no errors one thing or another, but then I do believe that these figures show a fairly rough and ensure certainty the validity and credibility of each vote.

At the time of this writing, 167 votes have been counted. It is important to note that the question was "who had attempted suicide one or more occasions?. Thoughts were not covered or be fantasizing about it, but just the facts. The result is divided into 101 people who have tried it and 66 who have not ever tried. We could draw many conclusions and reflect from different perspectives. One of the thoughts I had was, obviously, who have responded are those whose attempts were unsuccessful, fortunately. But what about those who achieved their purpose? Another thought I want to share: Sometimes we hear of a teenage girl or boy who looked no reason to undertake such an act, and yet they have taken their lives. Then we wonder why? And nobody gives a satisfactory answer. When it comes to a victim of abuse the puzzle is understandable, because one of the characteristics that defines us most is to have kept silent about the fact that we suffered traumatic childhood

Someone once told me a phrase that can shed some light regarding the idea of ​​carrying out the suicide:-I was already dead, suicide was a mere formality, is a concise and accurate, where the perception of self is associated with the vacuum, the pain, nothing. Why continue, then? To continue living becomes a gratuitous torture and unbearable. Suicide, it is true, can be an act of desperation, but I think in many more cases is an act of liberation, to end this pain sometimes unbearable whose origin is unknown and whose battle to end it has long been given up for lost. Along with the reasons given above, another very common is to be absolutely useless and expendable. Many are convinced that if they disappeared nobody would miss even a favor would family and friends deliver them from their presence. It is clear that self-esteem in these cases, nonexistent. One of the main problems associated with child sexual abuse is that the victim is canceled. In his childhood does not have the tools to defend themselves or to understand what is happening, and who should stand as their advocates, or their family are often the perpetrators of abuse.

Moreover, when sexual abuse is domestic chances are that it will last for years, since the attacker has full access to the child and all the possibilities to impose its authority. To get an idea, I did another survey concerning the duration of abuse. Just one fact: 26% say they have suffered abuse for over 8 years. With the passage of time the child's ability to revolt ends disappear, meekly accepting the reality that you live. Sometimes it has known. The helplessness and loneliness are feelings that are exacerbated and drag you to the bottomless pit. He said a good friend, 'you try to find others that say there, that door will be opened sooner or later, this forgetfulness that will keep you going, that "time" heals everything ... but do not see anything, and this inability to perceive those things that others are as clear and evident not only increases the belief that no vouchers for nothing, you are not even able to see that others see so clearly. I said earlier, referring to the first statistic, which fortunately many people had not achieved its goal, but in many cases there is a negative factor to add to the already long list of difficulties to overcome.

Before a suicide attempt many have been discovered. For one reason or another has made public his act. And as I said a colleague who lived these circumstances, 'suddenly you no longer have to become a name "that attempted suicide?. Now you who took the pills, who was shot ... and then you have to put the faces people, some with pity, others look at you like you're a strange specimen, other pain, the people who love you, but you see all the misunderstanding and the question of why you come to that- That's what happens on the outside, but the family situation is not much better. Another great companion summarized the process that develops the idea until the final moments: 'I remember first afraid of the thoughts I had, for be able to get to that point. But once beyond the obsession appears for all sorts of information to select the most appropriate method, was very clear that he would not throw me an apartment, I lack the courage. looking for something simple, painless , and possibly faster.

After nervous about the decision, and after a few days and as the time drew near, very calmly, confidently, but I also remember a lot of people are sadly trapped in the past, suffered the unspeakable, that is no longer able to generate resources to enable it to escape from that prison, and is there in the past, we must look for the key. Tell a possible suicide everything has a solution, which will be better times or you are many things to live, not useless. http://www.jmontane.es